The Mature Individual - How Adults Deal With Life

by Mr. Ishwar Parmar | Chapter 8, Act 2

As we grow older, we are expected to shoulder responsibility. Life can get hard and being an adult can be difficult. We cannot turn back the hands of time but we can always learn to master the art of being a responsible individual. With time, and practice, things will fall into place.

The thoughts and ideas we had as teenagers are slowly replaced by shaped views and opinions. There is a marked improvement in how we handle situations that previously seemed like a challenge. Here are some aspects of your life you will learn to give importance to as you mature as an individual:

The health factor

As we grow older, we begin to think about leading a healthy lifestyle. We even work towards healthy living. Working on changing your diet is the first step to a changed lifestyle. Cutting down on junk food by choosing greens over KFC is one way to begin. The next logical step would be to adopt a proper living routine. This could include eating small meals regularly or sleeping early. We start by making small changes and then proceed towards taking big steps. There is nothing more important than your health. Learn to respect your body.

Money matters?

Money does matter; but, it isn’t the be all and end all of our existence. We should all aim to earn as much as we can and then work towards spending it wisely. If money takes over, it will affect the people around you. Make sure to make wise investments to avoid having regrets in the long run. Do not make it your sole aim in life to earn money. There are other important things that deserve your attention.

Relationship Goals

We are often defined by the relationships we maintain. Our family, friends and acquaintances form the solid foundation upon which we build our lives. When we grow older, we learn to value our relations more. We weed out the superficial people who once occupied our lives and focus on maintaining the bonds that have lasted. Maturity comes with its own set of perks. While we still enjoy hanging out with friends or spending time with family, we learn to maintain space to prevent relations from turning sour.

Therefore, there is less conflict in relations as we mature as individuals. We learn to give off our time to the people who matter. Therefore, we tend to handle our relationships better as we mature.

Aiming higher

Life comes with its own set of challenges. While some of us adapt to it, others learn the hard way. However, we all learn in the end. We never stop learning lessons along the way. Do we pay heed to the lessons learned? Sometimes, we tend to make the same mistakes over and over again. We need to ensure that we take away valuable lessons from life. We tend to be brash and unapologetic when we are young.

We make mistakes and move on from it without learning. However, as we grow older and wiser, we tend to ponder on the things we could have changed. We may not be able to undo our mistakes. But, we can learn to grow from it. Maturity helps us to sharpen our intellect. Therefore, we also tend to make wiser decisions. After all, when we reach a certain age, we are not only responsible for ourselves.

Life is a rollercoaster

Life isn’t a bed of roses. It comes with its own twists and turns. When we least expect it, we are thrust into an unknown situation. If the Gods are with us, we enjoy a period of harmony and good luck. If you enjoy the good times, you need to be prepared to handle the bad, too. The good news? Nothing is permanent in this life.

When going through a negative phase, do not let it take a toll on you. A negative mindset will just prolong the bad phase. Learn to help other people who need a boost every once in a while. You need to be up for the ride in order to truly enjoy it. There is nothing too difficult for you to master. Have a little faith and patience.

Emotional growth

We struggle to grow emotionally, despite growing physically. Some people never cease to get out of the ‘childish phase’. They begin to throw a fit at the drop of a hat without dealing with the situation at hand. There are some individuals who want things their way – even when they turn 30. It’s either their way or the highway. Are these emotions true or are they a ply to gain attention? We base our emotions on our own perspectives.

This affects the people that are in regular contact with each other. Some of us tend to hold onto these emotions, looking for other people to come and calm us. If our emotions cause a chain reaction? Why feed it?

A matured individual learns to master his or her emotions. They look into the root cause of the problem and then try to find a solution to it. If you are going through an emotional storm, it will soon pass. You need to have the patience to deal with emotions in the best way possible.

Have you ever wondered: why do our emotions affect us so badly, especially if our family members are involved? Dealing with emotions while ensuring peace and harmony is a trait which mature people develop over time. We become emotional when our expectations aren’t met or when we want things our way. Therefore, we need to come back to reality, instead of living in a world of make-believe. When we learn to introspect, we are able to understand exactly why we react to certain situations. The answer lies within you.

When we grow into responsible individuals, we are forced to face our emotions and deal with them in the best way possible. We learn not to take out our frustrations on other people. We also learn to move on from a situation easily without holding onto the past. Take the time to understand the emotions of other people as well.

If we allow our emotions to get the better of us, we become prisoners in our own world. Do not become a slave to your emotions. It creates an atmosphere of self-doubt and unhappiness. Learn to free your mind in order to truly enjoy the best life has to offer. We truly mature when we are able to master our emotions. We must also not let the emotions of other people affect us. If there is a problem, have a discussion and move. This is a sign of maturity.

Life fulfilled

A mature individual leads a fulfilled life, despite the minor hiccup. When you learn to ‘grow up’ in the true sense of the word, you will enjoy health, wealth, intellect, clarity in vision, friends and family. The past teaches us our greatest lessons. We must learn to internalize it and move on with the hope of never repeating them again. When we adopt this attitude, it becomes smooth sailing.

When you lead a fulfilled life, it shows. It is reflected in your interactions with people and in your actions. Learn to share your joy with others. Do not stock up on the blessings you have received. Learning to share will give you a different purpose in life. When you develop mature thoughts, you can be a mentor to others in need. If you get the opportunity, inspire those who are just starting out in life. There is always a person in need of a little boost every once in a while.

When you have unlocked some of the many secrets of life, it should be your responsibility to pass on your wisdom to others. Help them tackle the situations that you have found yourself in. As we mature, life should become simpler. It should not become complicated. This is only possible when we learn to introspect and find the answers to life’s questions within.

Lessons learned

Sometimes, life can get a little overwhelming. Being an adult can have its bad moments. How do we try and balance things out without putting too much stress on ourselves? The answer is simple: Do not stress over matters that do not merit a second thought. Learn to enjoy life for it is and not for what it could have been life. Let go of the past and look towards the future.

Appreciate the small moments for it can have a major impact on your perspective on life. If you feel like taking a break, do it. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Learn to live in the moment and cherish each day like it were your last. As adults, life may seem to slip away at times. We are the masters of our destiny. Learn to take control.

Here’s to life. Here’s to you.